about

Call me Zoë. I’m in an excellent long-term relationship, but for a long time I didn’t particularly like sex. I tried to become more sex positive by educating myself, but I didn’t get very far. A little while ago, I found a name for it: “sexual shame”. Then I discovered that the shame wasn’t actually mine, and it suddenly fell away.

I started this blog about 6 months after I’d had my sexual epiphany. I began by writing about my sex and relationship experiences, mostly to understand myself better, but also with the hope that some of the stuff I wrote might somehow be helpful to others. I soon felt driven to post self-portraits too, though I didn’t understand until much later that I was learning to accept my body, explore my sensuality, and reclaim my physicality.

I’m highly sensitive, empathetic, and curious. I’m deep, complicated, and unintentionally contrary. I have a dry sense of humor. I’m a dancer.

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A note to marketing people: I’m interested in reviewing non-fiction and literary erotica. I’m not particularly interested in reviewing products; I lean towards minimalism and your free review product has to be pretty amazing (as well as sustainable, body safe and probably recyclable) for me to be willing to take on the responsibility of ownership. At present I’m not putting ads on my site.

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